How Dahlya Brown Shook Created A Paradigm Shift in her Home and Business inside Private Mentorship

“Sometimes our hardest struggles lead us to our most profound change”.

In today's episode, I am happy to bring back my good friend and client Dahlya Brown Shook. We talk about her personal journey of transformation and her experience as a stepmom and how it triggered her core wounds, leading her to question her decision to move across the country.
 
Through our work, she was able to shift her perspective and see her stepdaughter's behavior as a mirror for her own wounds. This allowed her to do the inner work necessary to heal and gain her self-trust back.
We also dive deep into her unique form of healing called movement medicine, which she teaches in Accelerated Wealth.

ABOUT DAHLYA

She specializes in Trauma-Informed Energy Medicine, uniting science and mysticism for holistic wellness. With a Masters in Occupational Therapy and various certifications, she guides clients, including Spiritual CEOs and Business builders, in rapid, comprehensive healing. Explore her offerings and get a Free 3-Part Brain Optimization Toolkit at www.holisticmedicalhealing.com
You can also follow her on IG @holistic.medical.healing

Some of today's HIGHLIGHTS:

(15:11 ) Dahlya’s journey.
(18:32) Step mom – stepdaughter relationship: a reflection of old traumas.
(28:28) An invitation to shift.
(35:15) Parenthood isn’t what I thought it was going to be. Finding joy in the process
(44:50) Movement Medicine.
(50:46) Matching up Accelerated Wealth with Movement Medicine.
(54:07) Dahlya’s before and after our private work.

Make sure to listen to my previous episode with Dahlya.

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Transcript

Alyse: That is probably one of the biggest reasons why people have so much family trauma is because people don't know that their kids are actually reflecting back to them something that if they knew how to use that information, they could actually use it to heal. 

Dahlya: When you switch the energy, it transforms everything.

And now I'm not judgy in my business. I'm not judgy with my health. So it just coming from that place of love, it relieves all of that stress and creates a space for freedom.

Alyse: Welcome to reclaiming consciousness. My name is Alyse Bacine, spiritual mentor, breathwork practitioner and owner, and CEO of Alyse Breathes. For many years, our consciousness has been hijacked by societal and cultural programming, religion, the media, and familial and ancestral trauma. Right now, during this epic time in history, people are waking up, realizing who they really are and reclaiming the pieces of their consciousness that they unknowingly gave away.

This podcast is an exploration of how so many spectacular humans are leading the way in exiting the matrix and reclaiming who they really are and what they're capable of. In this show, you'll meet exceptional people who are paving the way in raising conscious. And creating a new way of living on this earth.

Get ready to go deep now. Let's dive in.

Hi, everyone. Welcome back to the show. So today's episode is really close to my heart. I have brought my client, Dahlya Brown Shook, back onto the show because I wanted to really go into the story of what she created and shifted in the last part of our private work together. Because the work that we did together was so profound and it was so indicative of what it looks like to take what's happening in your family life and your relationship life and use it and apply it to grow your business and Dahlya, you'll hear her story, but she is Was facing some really big challenges in her home life.

She became a stepmom, a full time stepmom to two tween age kids. And it was very challenging for her. But what ends up happening in most of our work was me guiding her through the situations she was in at home. And really using them to not only grow her business, but completely turn around. Her family life and her relationship with her husband.

So this is just, this is the stuff that I love so much and I love sharing these stories because it's such a beautiful illustration of what's possible when we know how to navigate relational challenges and we know how to use them. them as portals for growth. And you guys know I'm like obsessed with this because our relationships and even just like what is being reflected back to us in all areas of our lives are such powerful portals for growth if we know how to use them.

And this is just a story of the way that Dahlya was able to use her relationships that were very challenging. as portals for growth and how we did that within the scope of our work together. So I know you're really going to love this. You're going to get a lot out of this. And you know, if you're interested in what Dahlya has done with me, you know, Dahlya actually was in all of my programs.

So Dahlya, she started out doing like a. Smaller private package with me. Then she came into, I used to have a program called the quantum accelerator, which you can actually, it's all about energetic mastery and you can actually still buy that it's in my spiritual speed bundle. You can buy it as an all digital program now, but she was in that.

And then she joined the metamorphosis and then we started working privately together. And then she also did, um, the metamorphosis method and accelerated wealth. So she has literally been in all of my programs, including private, and she's also in beyond the matrix. So she's been such a pivotal client for me.

Such a, an amazing person to have in my world. So she came in and did all of those programs. And then, you know, towards the end of our work, we really focused mainly on the challenges she was experiencing at home and how she really transformed them. So I know you're going to love this. And, you know, if you're interested in working with me in any of those capacities, just reach out right now.

I do have a couple of spaces open for private. And what private includes is two private calls with me per month, private Voxer access, and then also you get access to a group container of your choice. So it's either Accelerated Wealth and Mastermind, the Metamorphosis, or the Metamorphosis Method. And I can help you figure out which one is right for you, depending on where you're at and what your goals are, but you can just reach out to me and we can chat about that because um, private is my most close proximity mentorship space. We can just have a conversation about it if you know that you're serious about. Doing that. And then also right now, we have some really exciting stuff coming up. So I have my program past lives and money, which honestly, you guys, everybody needs to do this, especially if you have a business or you're wanting to start a business.

Because the reason why I created this program is because I see women in business or women who want Start a business. to grow in general, coming up against the same archetypal energy blocks. And usually it's around the fear of being seen, the fear of being ostracized, the fear of people not liking you, the fear of it all burning to the ground, meaning like losing everything, which is like a collective trauma fear.

And then, um, the fear of people not liking you, the fear of people not understanding These are all past life archetypal energies. They actually leave energetic imprints in the collective and we unknowingly subscribe to them. And then when we start our businesses, they actually come up for healing and transformation.

But we don't always recognize it, and we think that it's a reason why we should stop, or we think it's a reason why we need to go more slowly, or we think it's a reason why we should question ourselves, or why we don't feel confident, or whatever it is. But really, there are portals and invitations for growth if you know how to utilize them.

And in Past Lives and Money, I'm going to show you how to do that, so that you can make money faster in your business, you can grow your impact faster, you can bring clients in faster. And you can just grow faster in all areas of your life. Even if you don't have a business or you're just thinking about starting one, having this in your back pocket is everything because literally everyone comes up against this stuff.

And it doesn't matter where you are, right? At every new level, this stuff will come up because once you like have been seen to a certain level and you have a certain audience, then when it comes to growing it, It will come up again. Or for example, if you are wounding is more around being afraid that it's all going to go to shit or being afraid that you are not good enough, or no matter what you do is never enough.

These are all things that come up at every level of expansion. So I'm going to show you how to work with them and alchemize them to turn them into portals for growth instead of something that blocks you or you feel like you need to overcompensate for or work so hard to overcome. So that's what we're going to be doing in past lives and money.

It's a six week container. It's going to be five teaching calls and one coaching call. There's also going to be a boxer component to it. So, um, there'll be one day of Q and A in the Voxer and the rest is community support. It is going to be so good. And of course, there's going to be breath work and energy work and all of the things.

So I know everyone is going to get so much out of this and it's going to be so good. So we have pre sale pricing until the end of the week. So right now, pre sale is 2 2 2 2. Or four payments of, I think it's 5, 5, 6. So we have that going on and, um, don't forget to join before pre-sale is over so you can get that pricing and, um, the price will go up after the 15th and then, My next program after that is that's going to be starting at the beginning of November.

I'm so excited about this one, you guys. This is so good. It's called Real Results and I created this because I really saw a gap in the space around people , doing the personal growth work, but then not being able to apply the work to create tangible results in their lives. So what we're going to be doing in this program, this again is going to be six weeks, and I'm going to be showing you how to take the knowledge and information that you have that you've gotten from the healing work that you've done, like the work you've done around You know, your family programming, the mother wound, the father wound, your limiting beliefs, your money beliefs, all of that stuff.

I'm going to show you how to take that and apply it to create actual results in your life. And I'm going to show you how to shift your energy and perspective in each moment to create the results that you desire. Because having the awareness around what the issue is or doing the healing is a great start, but then you have to know how to apply that information in every moment, and that takes diligence and willingness from you, but it's not hard.

It just takes intention. I'm going to show you how to do it in this program so that you get. Real tangible results that are sustainable because that's what everybody wants. Anybody can do the healing, but then you have to apply it in order to get the results you desire. So I'm going to show you how to do that in real results.

It's going to be so good. And then I'm going to give you guys the option to bundle both past lives and money and real results. And they actually go so well together. And past lives and money is going to start at the end of September. And then right when that's done, real results is going to start. So it's a great thing to bundle because you're going to save over 1, 000 if you bundle them together and purchase them together.

And then it's a great way to just really propel yourself forward in my world for the rest of the year. So if you're interested in bundling those, please reach out to me. We should have a link for that happening soon and I will put it in the show notes. If not, just reach out to me and I'll get you the link to bundle both of those programs.

I highly recommend doing that because they're both going to be. So good. And I think this thing that I'm talking about in real results is something that like So many people miss or they don't understand how to apply or it's like, okay, now that I found out that this is my mother wound, I'm going to like continue to come back to it or continue to make it a thing where it's like, no, I'm going to show you how to take that information and make it not a thing anymore.

So that's what we're doing in real results. So reach out to me with questions about any of these things. I know you're going to enjoy the episode. I'm sending you so much love.

Hi everyone. Welcome back to the show. So I am super excited to have back with us today, Dahlya Brown Shook, who we're going to be talking to about a bunch of things, mainly the huge transformation that she had around her. family dynamics and her relationship with her stepkids and her husband. And then we're also going to be talking a little bit about her unique form of healing called movement medicine, which she teaches in Accelerated Wealth.

So welcome to the show, Dahlya. 

Dahlya: Thank you so much for having me again. My name is Dahlya Brown Shook. I am owner of Holistic Medical Healing. I am an empath, a starseed who transitioned out of the healthcare model into the coaching realm. And during that whole process, actually what the catalyst for it was in 2020, I got married, moved across the country, became a full time step mom in a matter of nine months, which was not anticipated.

And in a brand new marriage in my forties. Everything's shifting and it was a disaster, but I'm also like because of my training and because of the healthcare model and all of that stuff, like I know what to do. I'm a holistic health practitioner. I'm a holistic healer. I practice energy medicine, a lot of different tools and it kept all my stuff together.

I feel like as we shift, as we transform, this happens in everybody's journey. That's when our stuff comes up and when our stuff comes up, it's our opportunity to heal more and practitioners need practitioners and that is how we got here and I couldn't be more grateful for the work that we have done together.

Alyse: Yeah, and I really wanted to have another conversation because I feel like when you were on before, you know, obviously we had an amazing conversation and you got to share all of your wisdom and we talked about the work we had done, but then after that, I feel like we've moved into a whole new leg of what we ended up doing together and the scope of our work.

And it was really profound, which is why I wanted to share it with everyone because it was very unique in the sense that. I think just so the listeners kind of understand your journey is like you went through every single one of my programs. Well, you did. It was the metamorphosis, the quantum accelerator, the metamorphosis method, accelerated wealth, and then also private.

So I feel like because you moved through all of these things, you and I also got to a point in our work where we were able to go really deep with each other, which is obviously what I always talk about with this. the benefits of the long term relationship, right? So you and I got to the point where we were able to go really deep in helping you completely shift what was happening for you at home with the dynamics, not only with your husband, but especially with your stepkids.

And the other reason why I wanted to bring this to the forefront is because everyone is always hearing me talk about like, your relationships will show you the places that you need to grow in business, or they'll show you what you're being invited to shift. And what you have done is just such a perfect example of that and a perfect illustration.

So that's why I wanted to bring it forward. So take us back. So you get married, you move across the country, you don't think you're going to be a full time step mom, right? You think you're going to be a part time step mom. And then all of a sudden you're a full time step mom, what happens? 

Dahlya: I'm laughing because what you don't know now is that I've had an even more like profound shift and it all started with like where we came from and where you and I were working together and now I've completely embodied this whole, it is all happening for me.

And in seeing that for my personal life, for my emotions, for my health, for my like relationship, for my business, but it took three years for me to get there. And where I started was that place of, I was a newlywed. I was so in love. I had all the oxytocin going on. It was all feel good all day, every day.

And I moved into... during the pandemic at the like the end of the pandemic when things were still in shutdown, my husband, he reached out to me. We were college sweethearts like over 20 years ago in undergrad. He reached back out to me. We were like, yes, you are my person. And so my dog and I packed up. We moved across the country, my practice, my parents, my family, my fellowship community was all in Houston. And I knew that I was going to be a part time step mom. 50 50 was the agreement. And because of changes that happened, that was not the case. And within there's that piece. And then the piece of also moving during the pandemic, two young kids under the age of 14 and a girl and a boy.

And I used to work with pediatrics. I know what to do with kids, right?. It worked. That worked for like the first like three months and then it wasn't working anymore. I was trying to be like a teacher, a friend, a new person in their home while at the same time, but because they were doing virtual classes because of COVID while at the same time in this small condo, the dogs, my dog and my husband's dog were all fighting and they were having dog fights.

And I did end up allowing my dog to transition to the next phase. And that's a whole magical story in itself. So just saying all of that, like add in the layer of. kids triggering every single core wound I ever had that would have challenged me to go to old behaviors of anxiousness, depression, hair pulling, self loathing, like self sabotage, just everything.

It made me question everything. And when everything gets questioned, that self trust just disappears. And from somebody who's had it before to now not having it, I knew that this was not sustainable. So it was a mess. And there was a lot of control, all the different pieces. So wherever you want to go with this.

Alyse: Yeah. I think there, there was so many, obviously, like. Parts of the journey that we walked through together. But I think I want to focus more of the tail end of our private work together because I feel like we've made so much progress in this area, especially with your stepdaughter and what we kind of uncovered of like what she was reflecting back to you.

And how you were able to transition that relationship because I know that we all kind of know girls especially can be more challenging when they are in those 10, 11, like that whole age. So can you like tell us a little bit about what was going on with her and like what you were experiencing during that time?

Dahlya: What I was experiencing during the time and what she was going through are obviously two very different things. What she was going through and all was emotional abandonment, physical abandonment. She was very young and she still is. And every little girl wants the love of their mother. And when something like that is removed.

You and I both know there are woundings that happen and her insecurities and her needs and her need for love and like attention and all of that just came out in all the different ways. And she had not really been taught how to appropriately have those kinds of, um, interactions also because they had just gone through a couple of years of shutdown and like living at home and going from one home to the other.

So, her experience, she and I have had conversations about it now. I've had to get to a different kind of place from my experience of it in order to show up to be the kind of person that can help her. But I had to get through my stuff first. And the stuff that came up was, I'm not good enough, always wanting to be a mother, and not liking what was getting reflected to me.

That's the bottom line. I wanted something different than what was actually happening. Because there was so much distraught going on, I wasn't in the space to create what I wanted to create. She kept hooking into me, we kept getting into all these icky places, and it got me to a place, to a very special shadow place, that made me question, like, How could I ask these things of my husband?

There were choices of like, I needed to be chosen over her. She needed to be chosen over me. There was competition. There was, it was just, there were all the little gritty, like itty gritty things that would influence people's energies throughout the entire day. Not to mention that in for human design, she and I have actually seven overlapping places, which is like unheard of.

There's a reason we're together. We also really bump heads. 

Alyse: And can you talk about to like some of the because I know what we ended up really uncovering is that she was actually triggering the wounded version of you that had some really traumatic experiences around that age. And once we realized that she was actually like.

Literally playing that out back to you so that you could see it. It was like really profound that we saw that, but also obviously hard to still deal with it. So can you talk about that a little bit? 

Dahlya: Oh, yes. Okay. So this is where it gets to the magic place. Because as I am looking at this... Nine year old girl, 10 year old girl, 11 year old girl reflecting back to me.

I am doing some deep inner work of what was fifth grade Dahlya going through? What was the bully situations that were happening with the girls at school? All true. What was happening? I had a great home life, but in terms of like just girls and relationships and bully from my brothers though, I mean like it all just got came bubbling up.

And it's so interesting because it was a similar pattern. Here's the thing. It's not about the stepdaughter. It's about the opportunity. Because of what came up allowed me to really heal that core time frame for me, which then led me back to a childhood trauma at 12 months old. That's how all of these things happened for me to uncover and to heal even more.

And when I started looking at it from the lens of this is happening for me. It was much more supportive. Now, the transition time from the awareness that this is all happening to me getting to the point of this really is all happening for me, I would have liked that to have been a little bit quicker, but you know, it happened exactly the way it was meant to for all of us.

Alyse: Oh my gosh, I totally agree, and I remember, there's some like key things that I remember, but I feel like you had to go through this piece where you, and I'm going to share this, because I think this happens for a lot of people, where you actually thought that the situation was a mistake, right? Where you were like, did I make a mistake?

Did I make a mistake moving across the country? Did I make a mistake becoming a stepmom? Should I not have done this? Now this is crucial and this is why I'm bringing this up because people come to this place in business so often, right? Where they say, Is this really meant for me? Should I really be doing this?

Because they're coming up against these very things that you're talking about, right? Whether it's a wound, doesn't have to be the fifth grade version of, but whatever it is, they're coming up against some wound, some thought or belief about themselves that they're being, invited to look at and heal so that they can move forward.

I remember we had so many conversations about you being like, I just feel I made a mistake or I'm questioning if this is really what I should be doing. And then the other thing that I think was important that you had to go through was you had to go through this space where you We're making it about her in a sense, 'cause you were like, okay, well she needs to change her behavior, she needs to do this, she needs to do that. And I feel like so many times that I would be like, okay, let's bring it back to you. Let's bring it back to you. But I feel like you have to kind of walk that path of seeing what she's doing, making it about her, and then realizing that that's a dead end and then bringing it back to you.

Right. Yeah. So how did that kind of all like unfold for you as far as like real that realization of realizing that the only way forward is through yourself? 

Dahlya: I feel like I've always known that. So that's why I always sign up for this kind of work. 

Alyse: It's just about like actually like, you know, 

Dahlya: here's the difference because you and I both see this in our businesses, where you have to do the work. You have to do the work. Yeah. And it's wildly uncomfortable and it is painful and it is like shedding and it will like mess with your internal ecosystem, which if that's your issue, come to me. It all matters. And to your first part of the question, And I love that you connected to this business because this is exactly what we see questioning everything and not holding the faith in the belief.

It did make me like for the relationship. Did I choose wrong? And then how could I have chosen wrong and going down that rabbit hole, right? I'm going down so many different rabbit holes. Pick a rabbit hole. And, and allowing myself to go down it to be like, okay, is that true and where is this coming from?

Is it a fear that I could actually be creating and instigating rather than what is actually happening in reality? And here's, I mean, like, to be fair, step kids are just special when they don't really like the person living with them. And there were a lot of history of things that would have rubbed anybody the wrong way.

Who was trying to help. 

Alyse: Absolutely. Before you go on, the shit that you were dealing with, it's not like you were just being, this was like really hard. Like some of the things that you're, especially your stepdaughter, but both of them would say, and again, this is not to say anything bad about them because they're just reacting to what they're dealing with.

But some of the things that were said and the ways that you were treated, like it would have brought anyone to their knees. 

Dahlya: Thank you. 

Alyse: That's true. 

Dahlya: And you're right. And I needed that validation that what I was going through was outrageously challenging, right? And in a world where it was still shut down and I didn't have a support system and I didn't have my family, which.

Then led to did I make the wrong decision over and over and over because I was honestly constantly going back to my parents place to decompress for like three weeks at a time with my dog who slept for the first three days and it was amazing because she was just it was very obvious like she fell asleep in the sun and it was like she needed a rest.

She needed a break. We all needed breaks from this. That's how heavy it was for everyone. I had to get to the place of really seeing that the universe has always supported me. I had to, and, and it all happened because of the work that I had to move through, because when you do that, you see that you are supported and through that support, you gain your trust again, that even if it is messy and uncomfortable and dark and maybe shadowy, a lot of shadows.

And just like all the things that you don't want to look at for whatever reason, like if you don't look at it, it's going to keep coming up. Also another reason why I was like, yes, let's deep dive. 

Alyse: So I think what we were really able to get to, but through you questioning your decision is like this idea that there's really no right or wrong decision because whether or not you decided to move forward with the situation or not, this stuff was going to come up.

It would just come up in another way. And I think that was the thing that like. I kept coming back to and I kept inviting you back to and then finally you were like, okay, I get it. This is and not to say you didn't know that intellectually, but when you're in it, you needed me to like continuously remind you of that until eventually you were able to like, really sink into that and realize that, okay, This stuff isn't going anywhere, even if I decided to part ways with my husband, it would come up in the next relationship.

It might look different, but it's going to be the same energy. So I might as well move forward with it and deal with it here. And I think once you had that wherewithal to say like, okay, this is not about this situation. This is about me. Then you were able to really think into like, okay, what am I really being shown here?

Which was what do you feel like was the biggest thing about yourself that you were being invited to shift? 

Dahlya: I don't know if I can say the biggest thing that I was invited to shift. I think the biggest thing has like a lot of different components. Like I see it like it's like a mind and it had to do with the energy of everything, the energy of just life, the energy of our thoughts, the energy of how we are.

Holding space for ourselves, for others, recognizing that what I am feeling actually wasn't all mine all the time. And it still happens. And now I have the energetic boundaries to help support my boundaries so that everybody can be operating from their own safe vessel, not everyone like tagging onto everyone else's weird energies.

Right? So it's like, there's, that's a big piece. There's, there's so many big takeaways. I mean, my husband and I have talked about this. We talked about divorce so much during this time. And it almost became like the threat. And then we stopped using that. Because that wasn't therapeutic at all. Which, I mean, of course.

You know, but it's just like so many of the big shifts that my husband and I both had to do some of our own inner work. And been an accumulation of that, and he's been doing it too. And our commitment to each other has gotten stronger, and it's now more about us, not the children. And that's actually a really good point, because they're children.

And that's the bottom line, like, this actually isn't about them. It is about me, my relationship, my dynamics, and then my husband and I. And yes, no matter where I go, like, this would come back in some form or another. It would be so much easier to get divorced and leave, honestly. Because I wouldn't have to dig into all of this stuff that I did.

However... Because I stuck around and know that it's like in everybody's highest good, my husband's too. There's like a reason we're back together in this lifetime. That's undeniable. And the universe brought me like in my cards this entire summer. It has a lot to do with love and partnership. And so I'm getting hits from the universe to tell me that I'm going in the right direction.

What has it done for me now? Is it's helping me anchor into the energy of being an energy medicine specialist, completely transitioned and letting go of all the old systems and paradigms because and how I used to work and how I used to support and who I'm supposed to support now because I'm a new earth leader and everybody else is and we need support for the emotion, the physical.

I had to get there and I couldn't do that with all this other stuff because it's just like all these, oh, you'd like this one shadows on the wall and they are and their stories and learning how to disconnect from that and not make my next step based in that coming from fear. So now starting to create a family dynamic that is based in love and this light essence rather than waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Alyse: Yeah, absolutely. And I there's a couple things now like a couple moments that I remember now that we're talking about it because obviously it's been a little while, right? But there is a few things. One, just really watching you got to the place where you were able to have the wherewithal to see What was happening with your stepdaughter as a mirror and really being able to like not take it personally, that was a huge, I'm like almost going to get emotional about it because I feel like that was such a huge emotional and spiritual up level for you because to be able to have that emotional capacity to like see that and not...

 Of course you're going to take some things personally. We're all human, right? If any kid tells you, like, you're an asshole or whatever, like, of course you are affected by that, right? But you are able to, like, have the wherewithal to have the objectivity to say, like, okay, this is not about me.

I'm not going to hook into this. I'm going to allow her to have her experience and I'm going to take the information that I'm getting and I'm going to use it to heal and shift myself, right? And that is such a huge piece of this and I feel like that is probably one of the biggest reasons why people have so much family trauma is because People don't know how to do this and they don't know that their kids are actually reflecting back to them something that if they knew how to use that information, they could actually use it to heal.

To me, I felt like that was a pivotal. time where you were able to make that transition. 

Dahlya: It's so funny because now that I think back to it, I know exactly where we were when it happened when we're reading the book together. It was like I was dumbfounded. I read information for the first or multiple times in a new way and I started to see her as just her.

Alyse: Oh, do you remember when we were reading the book on the street? 

Dahlya: That's very much when I was just like, holy crap. And from there, things spiraled out a little bit. But that was more of the ego side trying to control the whole situation when the other side of me is like, wait, here's this a huge awareness that is going to break open everything.

And that's the dichotomy that we have to be aware of as we're doing this. The awareness of her having her own experience, it has nothing to do with me and dismantling and literally like learning how to remove those hooks. And I know that's what you talk about and it's like there were all these little hooks and she was able to like get into each and every single one of them and I made it about her but it had everything to do with me and my insecurities.

Yeah, when we clean that all up, we get to operate from this different place. It doesn't mean that we're not human and it still doesn't hurt sometimes. And we have to have those hard conversations, but it was just, it was really interesting because in conjunction with all of this work, I'm being Not guided.

I'm being given recommendations from in laws of how to parent, and it's an old paradigm of parenting system, and I'm like, I don't think that's right, and then there's other guilt, and so it's just, it was so much. 

Alyse: It was a lot, because, and I feel like to the step parent situation in general, it's And I remember I said this to you so many times.

It's like, you're like being thrust into a situation at like a moment in time. So you don't have the benefit of having them from the beginning. So you watch them evolve. And you also realize that at like from a. perspective of being a parent, like everything is just a moment in time, like everything's a phase, right?

Yes. And I remember I learned that so quickly after Levi was born, because like I would get so upset that he started doing something, and then it was like before I knew it, that stopped and I forgot about it. And then eventually I was like, oh, this really annoying thing is probably only going to last like a month, and then it's going to be a new phase, right?

And it's like that more in the beginning too. And things last a little longer as they get older, but like when you're a step parent, you don't have the benefit of seeing all those phases and you just get thrust into the situation. And then I think what you were contending with too is like, Oh my God, I thought I wanted a family and I thought I wanted to be a mom, but I didn't think it was going to look like this.

Dahlya: That has been the biggest, probably hurdle. Is it not looking the way that I imagined it to be? Yeah. And that, that tendency is even in itself, having that awareness is actually what causes many people to be like, I chose wrong. When you are guided and you just know and you know what, even though you don't understand how it's going to work and it looks like that it even may not where I ended up getting to was even as my husband and I continue to argue and get into disagreements and then come back together.

Like, I have to remember. Even this is happening for us. This is happening for us to grow. This is happening for us to come together. This is happening for us to learn how to have effective co parenting conversations, which is a whole vibe in itself. So it's just how to maintain the relationship and foster growth and development of humans who also have their own baggage. I thought I was totally trained for something like this. And no, it's different. 

Alyse: It's totally different when it's you and like your family and your kids, like it's a completely different thing. You need somebody else. Listen, I need somebody else.

Like I. I can help, and you're the same way, like, you can obviously help other people through it, but when it's you, it's so hard to see because you just can't, you can't sift through all of the emotions and stuff that comes up, and there was another thing I was remembering too. around just your relationship with your husband.

And I remember we had this other pivotal moment where I think you were saying, we were talking about like the, did I choose wrong or whatever? And like, we were getting to the place, okay, I know I love him. I know I want to move forward. And it was something along the lines of, I don't trust that he's going to love me in the way that I need, or I don't trust that he's going to, you be there for me in the way that I need or do the things that I want him to do or whatever it was.

And I remember having this moment of being like, it's actually not about that. It's actually about you trusting that you are lovable, right? That you're able to be loved and really about loving yourself, which is ultimately the whole point of being in a relationship, right?

Dahlya: Love from someone else. It is to learn how to love yourself in that relationship dynamic. Cause that's so different. 

Alyse: It's such a different thing and it's such a different way of looking at it and I feel like that too was one of those pivotal moments where it was like, oh my gosh, this whole time, like it's not about him, it's not about is he the right one or the wrong one, this is about me and how I can deepen my love and compassion and acceptance for myself.

Dahlya: And that leads to Learning how to enjoy the process in the journey and I know that's how like you and I both teach that is can you find which when you're in it, it's so hard to find and that's why we hire support and even as you're moving out of it for continuation like that's why it's so important but it's you have to get to that place because there are choices. Do you want to stay in it or do you want to expand because of it and through it and with it and when you can find joy in the journey, find and that's the appreciation piece, even if it's messy. It can still be loving, just like being able to hold both of those spaces, that's exactly what it's all about.

Alyse: Absolutely. And, and it's not to say there's no right or wrong, because like, I feel like some people are like, Oh, does that mean I shouldn't get a divorce? And I know there's times where like people grow apart or they're not meant to be together anymore. And that's a thing, right? I'm not saying it's not, but I feel like it's also about trusting your inner knowing, like for me.

Yeah. I kept being guided back to moving through what was coming up in my relationship, right? And once you do that, there's so much there for you when you stay with it. And both people have to be willing, right? And obviously you and I were both in situations where both people were willing to do what it takes to make it work.

But there's so much in that because you end up being like looking at your relationship in a completely different way. 

Very much. Everything changes, but it's because you change how we're looking at things. 

Yeah, and we change how we're relating to ourselves. 

Dahlya: And that's the beautiful place, like, that's where we want to get to. Because that's when life becomes much more, well, higher vibration, as opposed to the lower vibration of pain, fear, suffering, and all those places, which is what so many people are used to, which I used to be used to, so I get it, right? We don't have to do that. 

Alyse: Yeah. And also it's always this endless opportunity to look at whatever's triggering you in your relationship and then looking at, okay.

How am I causing this? Or what am I projecting onto him, right? And that's not to say we have to take every situation as that either. Because some people bring me like the littlest situations and it's like, What does this mean? And I'm like, No, you could, like, sometimes I'm just annoyed at my husband for asking Hazel too many questions about what kind of cheese she wants.

You know what I mean? And I'm not bringing meaning to that. I'm just like, No, that's annoying. Just pick the cheese. 

Dahlya: Very tangible 3D things. Absolutely. 

Alyse: Yeah, it's okay. We still can just get annoyed because when you live with somebody, if you're going to get annoyed, we're human. We don't have to bring meaning to everything.

However, when it's those bigger things where you're like, Oh, he doesn't love me. He doesn't want to connect with me. He's doing this or he's always doing this. Those are the places where you're like, okay. This is about me. This is not about him. And how do I have the opportunity to look at myself differently so that I'm not projecting my wounding or my perceived inadequacies onto him?

Dahlya: Absolutely. Yeah. And now... The kids are about to come back for school from their moms. And previously I would have been bracing and had all of these micro plans going on because I'm so smart. 

Alyse: I remember, I remember Dahlya. You're like, okay, the kids are coming back. 

Dahlya: Like how can I facilitate everybody being okay with crazy eyes, right?

We're not going to get started on like all the whole healthcare stuff, but now they're coming back. And I'm like, I'm actually curious. where I'm going to get hooked because it's something that is going to be like, oh, I didn't know that was still there. And as I say that out loud and profess that to the universe, this is how I created my group program for business owners is because learning how to be okay with all of those dynamics, be the mom, be the wife, be the woman, which that comes first.

And the business owner and the healer, what does that actually look like? How do people navigate that? How do we navigate that without losing ourself in the process? Because that's what it felt like to me. And that was where like embody your wealth came about because that was like the regulation meant everything.

The movement meant everything that like the health tools on a regular basis, having all of that, like it matters. And the piece that is so important is. Remembering that when something happens to bring it back home to me and look back in and say, okay, that just happened. How can I come from love, not judgment or telling everyone what they're doing wrong?

Cause That sounds like me. Totally. It's just when you switch the energy, it transforms everything and now I'm not judgy in my business. I'm not judgy with my health. I'm like so it's just coming from that place of love. It relieves all of the stress and creates a space for freedom which then builds...

Alyse: Absolutely. I'm just remembering when you're like, they came home with these like sugar cereals. 

Dahlya: Don't sue me. 

Alyse: It's not coming in our house. I mean like it's so funny too because I completely get it and like My kids, they have somebody that drives them from school to their activities and stuff, and she'll always give them like crap.

And Matt and I are just like, what the fuck? Like, it is annoying, but at the same time, I feel like it's like one of those things where it was such an opportunity for you. To be an allowance of the reality versus trying to control or change things because you were making them wrong because that was like, it's a reflection of what's happening inside.

And now, because you've gone through that, you got to create a whole. Program from it like and it's like these are the things that I feel like we think are like happening to us or we think they're so hard, but it's like in the walking of it, then you become this new version of yourself and you have something to teach and share.

With everybody else, which now is a perfect transition into movement medicine, because as everyone knows, Dahlya teaches movement medicine in Accelerated Wealth, and I'd love for you to just spend a little bit of time talking about what is movement medicine, how did you develop it, and what are the benefits of it.

Results that people get from it. And I know now it's evolved even more because you've evolved even more. 

Dahlya: Honestly, it's been such an honor movement medicine. Okay, for the very tangible three D left sided brain things, I have certified in way too many movement modalities. I know way too much about sensory integration, nervous system regulation, vagus nerve.

So music soothes the soul. We know there's so much science behind. Stress, cortisol, trauma, ancestral trauma, toxins, chemicals getting stored in the organs. I've always used movement to heal, not to push, to build like muscle or strength. Yes, that's a side effect, but it's always been from the place of releasing emotions through the body because once.

I can get all like sciencey here, but it's, it mucks up the system if you don't move it through your body from all of the different kinds of energy spaces. And so what I bring is a multi modality approach, a multi dimensional approach. There's channeling in the movements, like it is wild and like beautifully wicked and like magical all at the same time.

I also have a Movement Medicine membership for like New Earth leaders. People will feel like you'll come with a heaviness about a topic. It could be a launch. It could be money. It could be receiving. It could be a relational dynamic thing. It could be an anxiousness inside. It could be sleep issues. It could be congestion.

Whatever you're bringing to the table, we move it. We call it up. We release it. We move through it and we move through it through the and safe movements that just allow you to Come into the right side to be in your creative, your flow, your movement, your expansion. People will experience like tingling.

They will experience tears. They will always feel lighter and more grounded when we're done.

Alyse: What I just want to add is like It's never the same twice either, which I feel like is so cool. It's not like it's like this specific thing. You know how people come up with like specific sequences of things, like it's not like that.

Like, I mean, you've been teaching it for almost a year now. in accelerated wealth. And I don't think there's been one that's like the same, like they're all different just based and it's always like perfect. So I love that about it too, that it just is what it's supposed to be at that time. And it's not anything that you can expect, which I enjoy because I feel like when I do stuff that I know what's coming next, then my mind starts thinking about what's coming next instead of just being in the moment.

I love that too. where it allows you to be in your body and be present and then be an allowance of the body to do what it knows how to do without you trying to do anything. 

Dahlya: And or forcing anything to do that because how it has evolved is very much aligned with the moon cycles. And so if there is a session on close to or before or around the full moon or the new moon, we are always digging into those energies and sometimes doing some exercises about having to do with that.

Here's what like people don't realize. I have way too many trainings from this lifetime and then there's all the past life stuff that just like trickles in through intuition and so it's like that's how I can create these things and make it very curated and very specific and just bring in all different kinds of modalities and it's a lot of... 

Alyse: so many different things. It's like everything from breathing to Zumba and like tapping and that. Pilates, yoga, everything, there's like everything and then it's also just like you too, right? I feel like you got to this point too throughout your evolution where it was like you learned all this stuff, but then it was almost like you just had to throw it all away and use what was meant to come through you, even though all of that stuff you learned as part of it. Now it's just like this, whatever is channeling through you is more than the sum of all of the things you've learned. 

Dahlya: So that's interesting because yes, in every single like meditation I go into or whatever movement is my medicine for the planet. With combining all of these different pieces and the more I am able to move away from the traditional models and I used to teach group fitness like so it's like I was in those tangible things and I remember even having that conversation with you of do I keep up with it?

Do I move on to this? This is so empowering and impactful and releasing and healing and what comes through me I'm always amazed and I didn't realize now. I know that I've always been channeling through my body. I used to be an artist. I still am an artist, but like with my hands, I've always moved my body from like gymnastics to dance to Zumba to Tai Chi.

Like it's always been the thing. And so now taking that with All the medical expertise and all of that and just putting it all together so that participants understand how it's all connected. That is not just about mobility. It's about meridians and chakras and your energies and your heart connected to your arms and what you're calling in and what we're grounding into below us and above us.

Like all of it, when we can bring that into the body, that's really nice.

Alyse: It's really powerful. And for me, I feel like one of the specific results that I always feel from it is confidence. I feel like it really boosts your confidence because especially for me, I'm not like, I don't think of myself as like a good dancer or anything, but whenever we do like the movements, it brings me into like a, like an embodied confidence, which I feel like is obviously really helpful for the women in Accelerated Wealth also.

From your perspective, having been in Accelerated Wealth, And teaching the movement medicine, like, how do you feel like the movement medicine is specifically helpful for this mastermind?

Dahlya: I love it. It's why I've included it in my group program for embody your wealth is. It's so funny, like I've always done this, but I hadn't connected it to how I was regulating myself through everything that we just talked about was always through the body.

So it was my coping mechanism. And so in building and birthing this new business and using the movement medicine modality principles for the here and now, it allowed me, it allows your participants. To find ease around their offers to find strength in their voice to find confidence deep within their intuition without getting Other voices, other opinions mucking up what they want to create, and so it helps them anchor in to whatever they're stepping into.

If that's money, if it's family, if it's health, if it's a number of clients, if it's a new modality, if it's a new channeling. This can be used to help support the embodiment of it. 

Alyse: I agree. And I think, you know, on some level, I think we all channel through the body. Obviously, the body is like our portal of creation.

So to be able to use these practices that really anchor us into the body and allow us to to take ownership of the physical body and, and harness the energy of it. It's so powerful, and I think it's so important. And I think it's, it has to be included when we're really wanting to make changes, you know, and I feel like for me, just as a teacher and a leader, like I wanted to make this program.

360 approach, right? And like, I have the breath work, but like the movement stuff is just like not my thing. And when I saw you, when you led it at my retreat last year, I was like blown away. I was like, Oh my God, this is amazing. So that's why I included it. And I continue to include it because I feel like this piece has to be addressed if we're really looking at, the whole picture of how we're creating something and how we're continuing to create more and more.

It's so awesome and it's so, even though I know it's really channeled through you, it still feels like it's very well thought out in this way too, which is interesting because I know you're not sitting there, maybe you are on some level, some, some version of you is like thinking about it really hard because that's how you are.

Dahlya: No, because I'm already thinking. I'm like, I haven't planned. The next one. Where are we going to go? So yeah, that's what's happening behind the scenes. 

Alyse: Yeah, but it's very, seems like it's very intricately thought out. Like it gets to every point. So it is really powerful. So yeah, it's such an important component.

I'm really grateful for it. Okay, I one more question just to put a period on the end of the sentence of this relationship stuff. How would you describe the way what your household used to feel like before we started all of this versus what it feels like now? 

Dahlya: Can I answer that for the household and me?

Alyse: Of course. 

Dahlya: It's just like two different ones. So for the household, how the house used to feel. I mean, there were also dogfights. We were living in a trauma for almost two years. That's what it was. It felt that way. Like fight or flight. Into a disassociation and shut down. And I still built six figures. So that's what embody your wealth is all about.

Um, right. But okay. How did it feel then? It was heavy. It was tight. It was restrictive. It was judgy and like angry. It felt I couldn't find the positive in it. Now, how it feels. Oh, that doesn't feel good in my body at all. Okay. Hold on. Moving on. How it feels now. That's so funny. Thank you, buddy.

Lighthearted. More fun. There's more laughter. It's more easygoing. My husband and I are so much more on the same page. Kids get to be kids. I get to be me. And that's a big piece of this, is I didn't feel safe to be me. How did it used to feel for me was, I was looking at 15 year old depression cycles. When I was 15 years old, that's how it felt.

And I went and saw a Reiki specialist because that's how it felt and that's not normal. Not after I'd been off of meds for seven years. So I recognized like this wasn't okay. Now, how do I feel like I can do anything? And that the universe is supporting me and that sometimes our hardest struggles lead us to our most profound change.

And even though it is so painful sometimes, it's not always, but when it's deep, like it's deep and to know that I have the resilience and the courage and the internal conviction to do whatever I need to do. Because I know it can be different. And so that's the energy that is now creating the house. And there's a lot more love and kindness. And like nice words. 

Alyse: That's amazing. And how do you feel like your business is different? 

Dahlya: I'm not pushing. I'm not worried about any of it. I get to support my clients from a very filled up place. The boundaries are so strong. I feel like And I've gotten off of cocaine, so I also recognize what I'm about to say.

The hardest thing I've ever done in my life, I used to think, was getting clean from cocaine. Um, I think was this. Because this was the reason that I would have used that. Not now. 

Alyse: Right. I know what you mean. Yeah. The cause of the sickness. 

Dahlya: And which in hindsight, now, like, thank the universe that I got an opportunity to clean this up in a very deep way that has made all the difference.

Alyse: Thank you so much for sharing all of that. That was profound. And thank you for being willing to... Be so open about it because I know it's going to help a lot of people and I know any parent, especially anyone who has step kids, which I know there's people who are listening who do because I know that's a very specific type of, of situation that comes up for people.

But anyone, whether they have kids or not, I know is really going to benefit from this. So thank you so much for sharing all this and can you just let everyone know where they can find you and how they can connect with you? 

Dahlya: Absolutely. Also, if there are stepmoms out there and you are floundering, reach out because I couldn't find support and I've tried many different avenues.

So how can people find me at holisticmedicalhealing. com. Or, Instagram is holistic. medical. healing. You can reach out to me, DM. If you like this episode, definitely please let us know. I also have a free three step brain optimization toolkit that combines energy work, breath work, movement medicine, and gut health to help the whole body heal.

So that you can find on my website as well. Yeah. And Alyse always knows how to find me. 

Alyse: Thank you so much. Thank you for being here. You're amazing. 

Dahlya: Thank you. So are you.

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