Reclaiming Consciousness

The Secret Sauce - Your Self Worth

• Alyse Bacine • Season 1 • Episode 77

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 “When you put yourself out there and start a business, you are making a statement to yourself and the universe that you are placing value on yourself.”  - Alyse Bacine

The concept of self-worth is one that is often overlooked in our society. We are commonly taught to do things based on other people's feelings and put aside our achievements, our self-worth, and hide our successes, just to not hurt others. "This is something that we have been very much indoctrinated into as a culture and as a society: we need to place value on other people over ourselves."

In this solo episode, I wanted to give you the back story of my program Inherently Worthy, which is designed to help you start shifting the way you see yourself, own your value and clear ancestral trauma and old programming.

Some of today's HIGHLIGHTS: 

(08:54) Overcoming the fear of starting a business and healing ancestral trauma.
(12:49) “Can I really do this?” when actually the underlying question is “Am I worthy of this?”
(16:22)  The doctrine of placing value on others over ourselves.
(18:20) Creating Inherently Worthy to fight old paradigm programming and to learn how to “choose yourself”.
(28:00) What others have experienced and obtained with Inherently Worthy. 

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Alyse: Why is it that we feel responsible for the emotional reactions of other people? This is programming. As you continue to shift your relationship with yourself, your entire world changes. When you put yourself out there and start a business, you are making a statement to yourself and the universe that you are placing value on yourself. You are saying "what I have to share is of value to other people, what I have to share is of value to the world". 

Welcome to reclaiming consciousness. My name is Alyse Bacine, spiritual mentor, breathwork practitioner and owner, and CEO of Alyse Breathes. For many years, our consciousness has been hijacked by societal and cultural programming, religion, the media, and familial and ancestral trauma. Right now, during this epic time in history, people are waking up, realizing who they really are and reclaiming the pieces of their consciousness that they unknowingly gave away.

This podcast is an exploration of how so many spectacular humans are leading the way in exiting the matrix and reclaiming who they really are and what they're capable of. In this show, you'll meet exceptional people who are paving the way in raising conscious. And creating a new way of living on this earth.

Get ready to go deep now. Let's dive in.

Hi everyone. Welcome back to the show. So this week I recorded a solo episode for you around what I believe is truly the secret sauce to growing the way you want to, to calling in the money you want to, to calling in the relationships you want to, and it's all about. Your sense of self worth. So I go deep into this today cuz I really wanted to break it down for you of why this is so important and why this is basically at the core of everything else and how if you can shift this, Then everything else in your life shifts.

So I go really deep into it today. I'm excited for you to listen to it, and I think it's really gonna be helpful and resonate for you a lot. The reason why I recorded this is because I wanted to give you the story behind why I created the program Inherently Worthy, which I ran back in March. It was wild and the results were amazing and it really shifted things for people. And I realized how important these tools are, and I wanted everybody to have access to them. So the way that you can get access now is, It's a totally digital program that you can do on your own. So right now it's 555 on presale.

The price will be going up in July. When you purchase it, you'll get the whole course and it's yours for life. And then I'm, I'm gonna be running a q and a call in the third or fourth week of July. You'll get the dates for that when you sign up. You can come on and ask me anything about the program live.

So I just feel so strongly about this cuz I think that if you can shift the way that you see yourself and you can shift the way you relate to yourself. And the way that you place value on yourself, everything becomes so much easier. Whatever it is that you're calling in, whatever it is that you wanna create, if you wanna grow your business, if you wanna grow your income, if you wanna call in better relationships.

This is a way, so I feel so strongly about this program and I'm really excited to offer it as a digital offering that you can refer back to again and again. But I am gonna give that live q and a call because I really wanna connect with everyone on this end and give the opportunity to ask questions so that these tools can really integrate for you and you can really embody them to make those shifts.

We'll link it below. It's $555 right now and you can do two payments for that as well. And then also a few other announcements. I have my masterclass on Monday, the 26th, higher states of wealth. I'm so excited for this, you guys, because it's funny. When I get ideas for masterclasses or even programs in general, a lot of times the name drops in and I can feel the energy of it, but I don't always fully know what it's about.

And that happened for higher states of wealth. When I got it, I was like, okay, it's like the new paradigm of wealth. It's like this new frequency that I channel around wealth, and it's about rewiring the nervous system. But then I realized that it's actually about. The way that I move with money because I move very non-traditionally with money, and I've invested in mentorship and private mentorship from the beginning, the way I've invested in my business did not make logical sense.

It was totally intuitively led and led from a higher guidance, and I realized that this is how I made a lot of money quickly was by tuning into these higher states of consciousness around money. And really trusting the way that I was being led and doing things that didn't necessarily make sense and.

Using the tools that I have to support my nervous system when I was making those big moves. And that's the key. And that's one of the things I'm really gonna be talking about amongst a lot of other things, is how you can really support your yourself in making these big moves in order to grow your business and grow financially.

So I'm really excited for this. It's really about how I moved. In my business and my wealth journey, and also how I applied my own spiritual intelligence to money. So I can't wait. It's $97. It's Monday the 26th at four 30 Eastern. If you can't make it live, you'll get the recording, but we'll link it below.

You've gotta sign up. I'm super excited for it. And then other than that, please reach out to me if you are interested in joining either the metamorphosis, which is the pathway to heal familial ancestral trauma, discover your purpose and make lots of money living your purpose. And then I also have some spaces available for my certification program, the Metamorphosis Method, where you can become certified in trauma-informed breath work.

And the tools that I've created to heal familial and ancestral trauma. You don't have to already have a business or be a coach to join that program. By the way, that's a question I get a lot. It's really for people at any level who want to learn how to use these tools to help people. Right? So if you wanna learn breathwork and the breathwork is at the core of it, but then I have all these other tools that I've created that.

Compliment the breath work to help people create massive shifts quickly and you'll be trauma informed, which is really important. That's something that I take very seriously and I know people throw that around a lot, but I truly am trauma informed and I know how to teach it. So if that's something you're interested in, that's the place for you.

And then last but not least, I have a couple spots open in Accelerated Wealth to Mastermind, which is my six or 12 month mastermind to easily grow your business to five figures a month and clear the trauma and blocks that come up as you're expanding your business and your wealth. This is a sacred space for.

Spiritual women leaders, business owners, to grow their businesses, and it really has everything, embodiment, breath work strategy. I bring in guest experts on client attraction and audience growth, and it's really the coding that IEM embodied to create. The business and the wealth that I created in such a short amount of time.

So reach out to me about that. It's such a fun space. I love that Mastermind. I love all my programs, but yeah, I love all of them. So reach out to me with any questions about joining any of those and to see what is available right now, and I will leave it there. Enjoy the episode. I'm sending you so much love.

Hi everyone. Welcome back to the show. So this week I'm gonna be talking about what I like to think of as the secret sauce that everyone has to look at one point or another. When I first started my business, I had this feeling like, I knew, right? I just knew that I was supposed to do this. I could feel it.

I could feel that this had been percolating for the last 20 years, and I could feel that. I knew it was time and I knew that I was meant to do it, and I knew that I was going to, and I knew that I was ready to move forward. So I like had all this knowing, I had all the desire, I had all the willingness, the dedication, and I was like, you know what?

I'm doing this. And you know, of course I felt fear. Of course I felt doubt. Of course I was like, can I really do this? As I went further and further in the process, and especially, you know, when I would be doing all of this work, putting myself out there, writing all this content, and then feeling like it wasn't getting the attention, or I wasn't getting the response that I thought that I should, I would continually get to this place of like this feeling deep inside, you know, of like, can I really do this?

Am I really good enough? Am I really gonna be able to do this? And a lot of what I came up against, and I've shared this before, was the fear of failure, right? Of putting all of my energy and effort into this, and then ultimately failing. And a lot of that, which I've shared before in other places was ancestral, and a lot of this programming that we come up against is ancestral, by the way. Which is why I focus so heavily on clearing ancestral trauma with my clients, cuz so much of it is just being carried through the ancestral lines and has been passed down to us unknowingly. Right. And we're playing it out unknowingly.

We're subscribing to it unknowingly until we realize we are. But you know, I came up against this within myself so much, just this fear of can I really do this? Am I going to fail? Should I continue moving forward? And like that feeling of doubt, that feeling of fear, but what ultimately is underneath of that, right?

And even below I'm not good enough is am I really worthy of this? Am I really worthy in deserving of having what I want? And there's so much to this, right? Because I think a lot of people don't even realize that is actually what is underneath so much of what comes up for them. Even when it comes to being visible online, which is something that I see a lot of clients struggle with, especially in the beginning, just getting over that hump of not worrying about what other people think, not worrying about people thinking they're crazy, not worrying about people judging them.

It all comes back to a question of worthiness, and the reason why is because when you put yourself out there and start a business, you are making a statement to yourself and the universe that you are placing value on yourself. You are saying what I have to share is a value to other people. What I have to share is a value to the world.

So when you put yourself out there to create something, you ultimately are faced with the question of how much do I value myself, which is really a question of how much do I think I'm worth, right? Or how much am I willing to place worthiness on myself? Right? How much am I willing to illustrate that I believe I'm worthy?

And then we continue to come up against this along the journey, and it shows up in various ways. Right? A lot of what I see people come up against is just the question of, can I really do this? Which of course underneath of that is, am I really worthy of this? And the confidence piece too, which always comes back to worthiness as well, of like just having the confidence too.

Claim and own the power of what you have to share, claim, and own the power of your gifts claim and own the power of who you are. Claim and own your potency. And this is something that people really struggle with. And one of the reasons why, one of the biggest reasons why is because they don't want to make other people feel uncomfortable.

And this is, it's so interesting. I just had this conversation with a client where she was telling me about her hesitation to really claim and own the power of her gifts. And the reason why is because she was afraid of triggering people. And it's so interesting, right? Because why is it that we feel responsible for the emotional reactions of other people?

And this is programming, right? This is what we've been indoctrinated into, is this feeling that we have to basically change who we are. So other people feel okay, so other people feel comfortable. And it goes back to that story that I always tell about when I got the part of Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz in the second grade play.

And first of all, I knew I was gonna get the part. I told my mom I was gonna be Dorothy. And my mom was like, okay, Alyse, well maybe you should try out for another part. Like you don't know if you're gonna get it. And I had this knowing in second grade that I was meant to be Dorothy. I was meant to be the star of the show.

I just knew that. And it's interesting because this moment for me, I always go back to it, especially with in my own journey as I've stepped forward and claim the fact that I am the star of the show. That's the kind of the energy you have to hold in the business is like you're the star of the show. This is your world, right?

Like this is my world, Alyse Breathes is my world and I'm the star. So I've had to like draw on that energy so much, but it's like this thing too where I always knew I was meant for it. And I'm sure a lot of you can relate to this. So anyway, when I got the part, I came home and I said to my mom, I got the part and she was like, very happy for me and I was so happy.

And then immediately she said to me, don't go telling people how happy you are because you don't want them to feel bad because they didn't get the part. And it was so confusing to me because I was like, wait, so I'm not allowed to be happy that I got the part because other people will be sad that they didn't get the part.

And that was so confusing to me cuz I was like, well, can't only one person get the part like, So why do I have to be responsible now for everyone else who didn't get it? There's only one person who could get it. But it was like moments like those, and within that moment, and I've done a lot of healing around this.

I really like decided that I was responsible for other people and responsible for other people's feelings. And you know, it wasn't just that one moment. Cause I feel like my mom had really instilled that in me my whole life, right? Is that I had to do things based on other people's feelings. So, and this is not uncommon.

And this is something that we have been very much indoctrinated into as a culture and as a society, is that we need to place value on other people over ourselves. And what happens within this paradigm is that our sense of value for ourselves slowly erodes over time. Because if we're continuously told that we need to value other people over ourselves, What is that gonna naturally do?

We're gonna naturally start to think that other people are more valuable than we're, or other people's feelings or reactions are more valuable than we're, so this is something that we come up against in business, and it doesn't even have to be in business, right? It can be when you're wanting to create a relationship or you're wanting to create a new job.

This is what we come up against. And when I would always see what I was coming up against or what my clients were coming up against, I was like, What is at the core of this, right? Whether it was like they're coming up against the fear of failure or the fear of people judging them, or the fear of being seen, or the fear of that their work wasn't good enough, or not being able to create results for people.

I'm always looking at what is the core thing here, because if we can heal the thing at the core, we don't have to worry about all this other stuff. So usually when people bring things to me, like whatever it is they're coming up against, I'm not helping them deal with that thing. I'm looking at what is at the absolute core of that, what is at the absolute bottom, and I'm gonna heal that.

So that way we don't have to worry about anything else. So I would always ask myself this question of like, what is underneath of all of these things that come up for people in this journey? And it always comes back to worthiness. So I was like, okay, cool. Well if we can heal our sense of worthiness, then all this other shit just falls into place, right?

It doesn't matter to us as much anymore. So that's where I came up with this program inherently worthy, because I was like, I need to create something to help people specifically shift their sense of worthiness so that all of the other ways that worthiness shows up aren't a problem for them anymore.

Right. And then additionally, on top of that, this idea of worthiness and the paradigm shift. Came up so strongly for me when I was channeling this book that I contributed to Akashic Wisdom for Ascension, which I highly recommend buying by the way, because everyone who contributed to it is, is of an amazing, very clear channel.

And the chapters I channeled were wild. I was like kind of blown away by what came through. So anyway, one of the biggest things that came through when I was channeling the book was the paradigm shift around worthiness and how we are now being called like, because we're moving into this age of Aquarius and we're moving into this age of the individual.

That now we're being called to shift the paradigm from sourcing our worthiness and value from outside of us to sourcing it from within, essentially. So like what the guides were saying about this is that we've been programmed to source our sense of value or worth from. What we've done, what we've accomplished, who we are to other people, what other people think and feel about us.

That's what we've been taught is a way to source our worthiness or a way to feel a sense of value or even a way that we identify, right? Like so much of the work that I've done in my own life. Is to shift my identity from identifying with who I am to other people or the way that other people need me to identifying as value and worthy just for being me and what I'm contributing.

And even when I started working with clients in the beginning, I noticed this energy would come up where it's like, I would draw in clients or attract clients that like needed me and I needed them to need me. And it was like more of that codependent relationship. Not to say I was like codependent with them, but it had more of that energy because I sourced my value, sourced my worthiness from people needing me instead of just knowing my worth, just for being me.

So this is the paradigm shift that we're stepping into right now. Is switching the way that we source our sense of value, our sense of worthiness, and really our sense of who we really are from within instead of based on how other people see you. And again, this is something that has been programmed into us.

That we need to be more concerned with other people and what they want and how they feel versus how we feel and what we want and what we need. And what ends up happening with this type of programming is that we end up self abandoning. And I see this with so many people, that they don't think they have the freedom or they don't think they have the ability.

To honor themselves and honor what they need and what they desire because they think they have to do what other people want them to do. And I see this a lot with women who come to me, who want to work with me, right? Specifically usually in the metamorphosis, but they. Are afraid to really take the leap because they're afraid their husband isn't gonna understand.

They're afraid. Their partner isn't gonna understand. They're afraid their partner isn't gonna support them. And this is like the perfect example of making decisions based on other people. Right? And that's not to say you're like F everybody else. I don't care how you feel. That's not what this means. But what it does mean is that you honor yourself and your needs and desires.

Over everything else because, and again, it's like this program that we have even around being a wife and a mother. Which is around, you need to sacrifice how you feel for your family. And this, again, is something that's been really indoctrinated into us. So when you step forward in starting a business, so many women feel like they're abandoning their family or they're not gonna have enough time for their kids and their husband or, and it's like this end or thinking where you think, well, if I choose this, then I can't have that.

And that is, again, old paradigm programming because really the reality of the world that we live in is that infinite possibilities are available and you can have many things at the same time. Right? But we think that we can only have one, and if we have to pick one, we can't have the other one. Right. So anyway, that was a little bit of a tangent, but we're programmed to think that we have to sacrifice ourselves for other people.

But really what happens when you start to choose yourself is that you actually model that for your kids, and then your kids can do that also. But think about like if you watched your mom or your parents constantly sacrifice themselves for other people or constantly mold themselves to what other people wanted or constantly.

Move in a way that was only concerned with other people's feelings, not their own. Then we learn that's what you're supposed to do. So I see this coming up for so many people on the path to finding your purpose, starting a business, stepping forward with your gift, showing who you really are. At the core of it is how you place value on yourself.

How you sense your own sense, your own feelings of worthiness, right? So how you truly feel and relate to yourself, how you truly feel about and relate to yourself. So this is why I created this program Inherently Worthy, was because I wanted to create a set of tools, a. For you to shift your feelings of worthiness, because that's always at the core of all of this programming that we have.

At the core of all of this programming is you are not worthy and deserving of what you desire, but really your desires are actually your soul. Speaking to you is your higher self telling you this is what's meant for you. This is the next thing for you. This is where you're headed. This is where you need to go.

But we think desires are like the this frivolous thing that like we're only supposed to do on the weekend, and it's actually not true at all. It's your higher self speaking to you. So if you have a desire to start a business, if you have a desire to find a deeper level of purpose, if you have a desire to put yourself out there in any way, it means you're supposed to.

And really the only thing that needs to shift is you deciding that you're gonna place value on yourself, and that you're gonna decide that you're worthy and deserving of that desire. And that's not always easy. Right, because there's so much that comes up and it can actually feel wrong. I did a post about this yesterday about every time we decide we're gonna expand beyond what our ancestors created, whether it be emotionally, financially, just on a happiness level, on an expansion level of how much life force and abundance we're willing to create for ourselves.

Every time we decide we're gonna grow past that or expand past that, it feels wrong. And the reason why is because that is what is programmed into us that we only go this far. Right? Even if you know you're meant for greatness, even if you know you have an incredibly important mission and purpose, it can feel wrong to pursue it when you're expanding past what your ancestors created.

So it's really important to push past that point and walk through that discomfort because all it is is you transmuting that ancestral trauma, that ancestral program. So it'll feel wrong, it'll feel scary, but once you do it, then you actually get to step into your purpose and it feels so aligned. You just have to walk through that discomfort.

Looking at and shifting your sense of worthiness head on really gets to the core of all of these other things that come up, right? Because like I said, at the core of even all of this ancestral programming that we come up against is the question of your own value, the question of your own worthiness. So if you can attack that head on, if you can shift that head on at.

Then the growth process becomes so much easier, and if you have the tools to work with it when it comes up, then you can navigate the process so much easier, which is why I created these tools and inherently worthy. So when I ran the program before, people had really powerful results. People had really powerful openings.

People had really powerful shifts in their businesses. People had really powerful financial shifts. People had really powerful shifts in their relationships and just so many new levels of awareness of the way that you might be operating from feelings of not being good enough or ways you may be operating from.

Low self worth without even realizing it. Cause a lot of what can happen too is because we have a deep feeling of shame around not being worthy. What we end up doing is overcompensating for it in other ways. So that might look like overgiving. It might look like people pleasing. It might look like trying to prove something.

But really what's underneath of that is the shame of feeling unworthy, which we feel like we have to hide and make sure people don't see, which is why we think we need to overcompensate. So these are these patterns that we look at in the program that you really have the opportunity to shift and you have the opportunity to show up differently, and you have the tools and perspective.

To take it and run with it, right? It's not something where you're gonna go through it and you're gonna be like, instantly have the highest self-worth and confidence ever. But if you take the tools and you apply them regularly, your self-worth will significantly shift, and you'll begin to operate from a very different place and you'll begin to relate to yourself much differently.

And that's the whole point, right? Is. I always say the whole point of this work, of the transformational work of starting a business, of living, your purpose is to relate to yourself differently. Because as you continue to shift your relationship with yourself, your entire world changes. And as you continue to relate to yourself in a loving, compassionate way where you truly honor yourself and your energy, Your whole world changes.

The people around you will start to treat you much differently. And I've had this experience with so many people where they come to me and they say, Alyse, my husband is treating me completely differently. Alyse, my mom and I are relationship is so much better. They're like, but I didn't really do anything.

Why is that happening? And it's all because of the energy shift within you. When you create an energy shift within yourself, people can feel that and they can't help but relate to you differently. They don't even know they're doing it. But because you're no longer an energetic match for those lower frequencies, people have to treat you differently.

It would be energetically incongruent for anything else to happen when you start to hold yourself in a higher regard, when you start to operate in a way that you place value on yourself. And when you start to make all decisions and take all actions based on the embodiment of your own worthiness, everything starts to shift And things that once felt difficult, places where you once felt stuck.

We'll start to open up and be much, much easier. So if you are someone that's wanting to move forward with starting a business, if you are somebody that's wanting to discover a deeper level of purpose, if you are someone who already has a business and you wanna take it to the next level, if you're wanting to call in a romantic partner, these tools from inherently worthy will be a game changer for you.

I'm running this course again in July, and I'm gonna link it below with the exact dates, but it's self-led, so you're gonna, when you sign up, you're gonna get access to all of the tools, and then I'm gonna run one live q and a where you can come on and ask me anything you want about the program. You know about all the tools, about all the information.

You can ask me anything on that q and a, but really I want you to have these tools for life so you can come back. And apply them over and over again. Right now it's in pre-sale too, and it's only  $555, which is really a steal for this, especially cuz you're gonna have it for life and you continue to use it and apply it.

Reach out to me if you have questions about this, but this is something that I feel so strongly about because. It's at the core of everything, whatever it is that you're coming up against of like questioning, doubting the fear, the failure, the worry, the anxiety. If you can shift this, then everything else changes.

So I just feel so strongly about it because I'm always looking to get to the core, right? To get to what is at the bottom of this. I'm always trying to get to the bottom of everything and at the bottom of it. Is your worthiness. So if you can really shift this on such a deep level, then everything becomes easier.

Okay. I'm gonna leave it there. I am gonna link the program below and you can check it out. Please reach out to me with any questions. I am sending you so much love, and I will talk to you soon. 

Alyse: Thank you so much for being here. Don't forget to subscribe to the show, leave a review and share this show with your friends who you know are yearning for this type of content. You can stay connected with me by following me on Instagram @Alyse_Breathes, and by joining my Facebook group Breathe to Succeed where I share my weekly energy forecast. And subscribe to my list where you'll receive a free breathwork session, meditation and journaling prompts to deeply connect with your intuition at alysebreathes.com. See you next time.      

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